Summary
90 Day Fiancé: The Other Wayseason 6 couple James and Meitalia found themselves in a tough position as they prepared to move from Maine to Indonesia. Their move brings them closer to Meitalia’s family in her native country, but their lack of planning caused undue stress. The trailer for90 Day Fiancé: The Other Wayseason 6hints that moving to Indonesia complicated James and Meitalia’s relationship, beginning with their initial preparations.
James, an elevator mechanic from Maine, and Meitalia, who is from Indonesia, met on social media. They became engaged five days after meeting in person and Meitalia moved to Maine. After two and a half years of marriage,James and Meitaliadecided to move to Indonesia because Meitalia had been experiencing undiagnosed health problems. Meitalia was frustrated with the care she had received in Maine, and she hoped doctors in Indonesia would be able to help her. Meitalia decided to move immediately, while James planned to join her a month later.
James And Meitalia Are Secretive About Their Move
They Postponed Telling Their Loved Ones About Their Plans
Despite planning a life-changing move, as James and Meitalia made their final preparations, the90 Day Fiancécouple revealed they had not told their friends and family about their plans. James was employed by his family’s business. He enjoyed working with his family, which made it more difficult to leave his job. James expressed regret about the burden his leaving would place on the business. He appeared emotional about the conflict, and it weighed heavily on him.
James and Meitalia put off telling his family about their upcoming move to Indonesia for financial reasons. In addition to his emotional turmoil, James worried that his family would want him to stop working immediately upon finding out, while he needed to continue working to save money. Meanwhile, Meitalia worried James’s family would think she was stealing James from them due to their secrecy. She called not telling his family “so stupid” and urged James to reveal the news in person before she left, to no avail.
James And Meitalia Are Unsure Whether They Can Support Themselves In Indonesia
They Have No Job Prospects Lined Up
James and Meitalia were shown on90 Day Fiancé: The Other Wayattempting to sell their record collection to make some extra money. James would no longer be able to work for his family’s business once he left the country, and he did not have a job lined up in Indonesia. His only potential option was to work for Meitalia’s father, who makes banana chips.
James hoped to continue working in the month after Meitalia moved to save up extra money. He admitted he was worried about being able to find a job in Indonesia. James and Meitalia only had enough savings to support them for a couple of months, which put enormous pressure on them to secure income right away. The financial stress of moving seems unnecessary considering James had a good job in Maine and could have continued working there until he saved up enough money to be comfortable.
Meitalia Questioned Her Future With James After Hearing Unsettling News
She Began To Doubt His Interest In Starting A Family
The day before her move, Meitalia invited her best friend, Adele, over to her home and announced that she was moving to Indonesia. Adele was understandably shocked and upset about receiving the news so suddenly. Oddly, Adele was unaware Meitalia had been battling health problems. But Adele also made a revelation that left Meitalia shaken.
Adele told Meitalia that James had admitted to being “scared” about having kids. This was news to Meitalia, who was prioritizing her health because she wanted to start a family with James. This was a primary factor behind their move to Indonesia.
Meitalia took Adele’s news to mean James did not want to have children with her. She broke down, suddenly unsure about her future with James, and with little time to find a resolution before her move. Meitalia had called herself “emotional” and said she cries frequently. However, it is extremely common to be nervous, or even scared, about the idea of having children. Meitalia’s extreme reaction suggests the weight of her impending move clouded her judgment and left her especially vulnerable.
Her Stress About The Move Compounded Her Grief
The day Meitalia was set to leave for Indonesia, James revealed he had been keeping something from her. James failed to follow the required health protocols for their dog, Jojo, to join them in Indonesia. Jojo would have to stay in Maine, albeit temporarily. The news caused Meitalia to sob uncontrollably. While leaving an animal behind is heartbreaking, her disproportionate reaction reveals her fragile emotional state. Meitalia said Jojo would be all she had in Indonesia, despite her family being there, and she admitted she was losing trust in James.
Meitalia was very overwhelmed the day of her departure. James’s family was still unaware of their move, and she worried about when he would tell them. Meitalia was also still reeling over Adele’s revelation, but because everything was so rushed, it would hang over her head until she talked to James upon his arrival in Indonesia. If James and Meitalia had been more open with their friends and family about their plans, they would have been able to resolve these issues well before their move.
James and Meitalia appear to have taken this major life change a bit too lightly, and it resulted in them feeling overwhelmed and unsettled. They did themselves a huge disservice by not sharing the news with their loved ones earlier or making adequate financial preparations. Season 6 of90 Day Fiancé: The Other Waywill reveal the outcome of James and Meitalia’s move and the problems they continue to face in Indonesia.
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90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way
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90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way is a reality TV series documenting the lives of American citizens who move abroad to marry their foreign partners. As they navigate cultural differences and the challenges of adapting to new environments, each couple faces unique obstacles while striving to meet the 90-day deadline for marriage. The series provides an intimate look at the complexities of international relationships and the sacrifices involved.
